Setting goals that actually stick, part 2 of 3.

If you missed it, you can read it HERE

 

This week, we are shifting from ‘avoid or off limits’ goals, to focusing more on the things you can have.

Its human nature to want something once you’ve deemed it off limits…..

“I won’t eat any sugar” 

“I’m going to stop smoking” 

“I’m going to stop eating junk food” 

The problem with goals like this is that we tend to put up resistance. As soon as you make it forbidden and demand change, your wheels start turning and you’re already thinking of ways to fight against it. 

Thats when the excuses pour in and we start justifying why we couldn’t follow through. 

Plus, when we set those hard boundaries, any kind of slip up makes us feel like a failure. I have a secret to tell you, THERE ARE GOING TO BE SLIP UPS. But they don’t make you a failure or define your journey, unless you let them. 

So part of 2 of this series is changing those “off limits” goals into approach goals. Approach goals focus on the positive and the things we can do for ourselves that benefit us. It focuses on the positive rather than the things we cant or shouldnt have. 

For example: 

If your goal is to stop drinking soda. Instead of saying “I will never drink soda again”, shift that focus to “I will drink 80 oz of water each day.” 

If your goal is to stop eating sugar. Instead of saying “Im cutting out all sugar”, turn that dialect into “I will eat a serving of veggies at every meal and have fruit on hand for snacks.” 

Or, “I won’t sit as much on the weekends”….turn this into an approach goal of “I will walk 30 minutes every day.”

 

Do you see the pattern? Instead of focusing on the things you need to quit, or stop doing, or that have the negative underlying tone to them, focus on the things you can put into place that are positive and focus on the goods things that you can do for yourself! 

 

How can you start setting goals to smash in 2019? 

First, start by writing down a bad habit you’re wanting to break. 

Next, write down a good habit to replace that bad habit.

                            For example: If your bad habit is that you only get 4-5 hours of sleep a night. Your good habit that you want to focus on is that you get 7 hours of sleep a night. 

Now that you have that set, figure out an approach goal that supports your new good habit. 

                            I want to get 7 hours of sleep a night. I will start going to bed at 9:30. 

 And lastly, write down how this is going to benefit you! I think we all are pro’s at setting goals but we forget our ‘why’. When you don’t have a clear idea of how this is benefitting your greater good, its easy to lose steam on the goal and stop working towards it. 

 

Lets make 2019 the year of smashing new goals! Next week, part 3 of this series will drop! Make sure to stay tuned. 

 

Merry Christmas! 

Mallory